Parallel Universe

Put on your space helmets (or motorcycle helmets….whatever you can find first!) and travel with me to a parallel universe. Where gaining weight or losing weight was not a negative or positive event. It was just an event.

Where being fat wasn’t a bad thing and being thin wasn’t necessarily a good thing.  A universe where there aren’t any negative cognitions based on the amount of adipose tissue being held inside your body.

If your body was skinny, it wasn’t because you worked out 12 hours a day and don’t like the taste of food…..or where people didn’t assume that the reason you were big was because you were negligent or lazy or lacked self-control which most people infer is a reflection of your bad character and daily food choices.

Where the amount of adipose tissue in your body did not affect your chances of getting married or finding a life partner and didn’t determine who your closest friends are. In this universe, whether you are fat or skinny, you are just who you are.

In this world, gaining weight was simply this: your body’s purposefully designed safety mechanism – it’s your body’s own food shelter bunker in case there was a famine tomorrow. Even though in America, a famine isn’t something that will likely happen, storing fat cells in your body is something that your body does to meet a rational and objective need.

Your body wants to protect you. Like the diving reflex or the fight/flight response, your body is looking out for you because your body, for the most part, is much smarter than you. And simply that. No social stigmas attached.

What if your main purpose for running outside every morning was to decrease your chances of getting liver cancer by 50%? What if you were apart of a society where weight loss or weight gain is the impartial byproduct and not the main objective?

Where if you don’t fit into your favorite jeans, you wouldn’t feel like you’re a failure or that you would be ashamed. You just get a new pair because getting a size down or up is not a bad or good thing….it’s just something that happened. What if we looked at people and did not assume certain things about them? How different would our lives be?



iLuv Curvy Girls

When I told one of my colleagues that I was writing a blog about plus sized women, the first thing he said  was this:

Honestly, Alex, I’m really attracted to women who are curvy and athletic! I’m not attracted to girls who are skinny at all. It looks weird to me. 

My two immediate thoughts were:

I really don’t care who you are attracted to. Wait….why are you telling me this? 


You are probably saying this because I’m a curvy, athletic, woman standing right in front of you.

The truth is this: it’s so brainwashed into our minds that a women’s sole purpose in life is to be the object of a man’s affection; that her primary life goal is to find a husband, have children with him, cook, clean, and to help raise a family with him. We are that beautiful person that he has searched his whole life to find, right?

It’s brainwashed in our minds so much that my friend could not see the distinction between writing a blog about curvy women versus how much he finds curvy women attractive. He thought it was the same thing. These are two separate events: how a woman feels about herself and how a man is attracted to her. The fact that most people lump these two ideas together OR assume the later is a reflection of how we view women’s life purpose in our culture.